it took me a long time to get over the small minded judgementalism but I still am pretty good at saying what people want to hear and covering up what's really going on inside
Satans little helper
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Were we different?
by Fe2O3Girl inwhen we reminisce about our lives as jws, we keep coming back to some themes.
it seems like most of us have had some or all of these experiences:.
faking field service time reports.
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Satans little helper
How cool! I've just done my PADI advanced in Cancun and was diving a wreck in about 70 feet of water when we spotted about 10 baracuda just wafting across the bow of the ship as we penetrated the wreck. I have never dived anywhere so awesome
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Who is leading this organization?
by Strawberryfieldsforever inwhen i was still a jw, i thought that god was really working through these men at the wts.
i trusted them and i believed everything they printed to us.
now that i am out for so many years and can stand back and look at the organization without a brainwashed mind, i really wonder who runs this.
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Satans little helper
It's nothing to do with Satan, it's to do with twisted men
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Were you a JW trophy wife? Not necessarily a serious thread.
by FlyingHighNow insal, it's funny but things were much more shallow in the dubs.
i noticed some of the ugliest blokes getting pretty little trophy wives so long as they had a job or were the sons of elders.
my dad (an elder) even went so far as to encourage me to come back to the dubs because i would easily pull a good looking wife .
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Satans little helper
I've found my trophy wife, she's gorgeous and has a cracking bod. I found her in newquay dressed as a schoolgirl, much sassier than convention dress.
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my father, the cockfarmer
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Is it just me or?
by Sassy init just dawned on me today that this board is not full of desperate women for men.
all the years i was on jw boards, it was crawling with sisters who were desperate for finding a man.
used to drive me crazy... all of a sudden i noticed today that it isn't like that here.. .
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Satans little helper
Sal, it's funny but things were much more shallow in the dubs. I noticed some of the ugliest blokes getting pretty little trophy wives so long as they had a job or were the sons of elders.
My dad (an elder) even went so far as to encourage me to come back to the dubs because I would easily pull a good looking wife
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Is it ok for a man and a woman to live with each other wihout being wed
by fearnotruth22 in.
sometimes it may not be possible to get married for a lot of reasons so is it ok for a man and a woman just to live with each other?
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Satans little helper
well I got married in september after living with Clare for 2 years. The reason we got married now was two fold - 1) we want to emigrate to Australia and it's easier if we are married and 2) we are going to start a family and i personally think it gives the kids a bit more stability.
I've been in 2 long term relationships where I lived with women for 5 years each and we didn't feel the need to formalise things, today it's only as important as you make it.
It is only a piece of paper, but that piece of paper represents a promise you made to a person you love. A promise to stick by them through all the shit, to share all the good stuff and to be there when you both get old and wrinkly. The promise is what is worth something, not the bit of paper. Sod the 'in the presence of god' crap, it's all about that moment when you promise to stand by your other half come what may.
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Most dangerous has to be jumping out of a perfectly good plane, although it was for charity, and there was this one time when a freidn took me on his new motorbike round the bypass in Swindon and pointed frantically at the speedo for me to look as we were doing over 150. I think I shat myself more than the skydiving
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You Knew The Score!
by Englishman inmany years after i was df'd, i found myself at the end of a shunning campaign led by a robotic jw neighbour.. the neighbour had moved in next door to me.
he'd even borrowed some tools of mine before he discovered that i was an ex.
at this point he began a serious "i'm ignoring you" strategy which i found utterly hilarious as he was the one who had chosen to move in next door to me.
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Satans little helper
I was 16 when I was dunked and fully knew the score. I also knew i would be caught out and df'd before too long although I did have the courtesy to stop smoking for the two weeks before my baptism. As it happened it was two years before I got to the point where I didn't care any more and handed them my dfing on a plate when I met my first real girlfriend.
Was I mature enough to make the decision, probably. Did I actually dedicate myself, no. Was I doing it for show, obviously.
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Is it possible to stay friends?
by Fe2O3Girl ini am no longer in touch with anyone i've had a relationship with in the past.. there was one man that i stayed friends with long after i had got over the relationship.
however, the "staying friends" stuff dragged out the process of getting over the breakup to painful lengths.
the friendship lasted as long as he needed a mate in the area to pass an evening with when he was around here, and someone to fill out the numbers and buy a present when he got married.
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Satans little helper
Ths short answer is no, actually the long answer is no too.
I was with someone for 5 years when I decided that enough was enough and I left. I hurt her alot and compounded it by staying friends with her and swinging between shall we / shan't we get back together. In the end staying in touch made it harder for both of us to move on and we both hurt other people because of this.
The final nail in the coffin was me meeting someone very special who I am now married to and I am not in contact at all with my ex.
My wife on the other hand is still in contact with her long term ex who is now married with a kid, thing is he is in Holland and not living a mile away from us like my ex. I think if there is real distance between you then you can keep in touch and remain civil without emotion complicating things too much. Real friendship with someone you once loved is impossible because at the back of your mind you will always gauge your current relationship against the old, and tend to forget the negative aspects of the old relationship.